Maybe your family isn't so perfect!
As long as you grow from it and accept that it will never change, you can then decide to grow and change on your own, don't expect familial dysfunction to be your fault, you have to grow and change on your own. Individuation involves this, everyone has to do this in order to grow and change.
Why do I keep saying the phrase "grow and change" so much?
Must be a hypnotic suggestion, ha!