Monday, July 10, 2017

Bad Friends? Family members driving you crazy? Here's Help:

It's okay to feel ambivalence about something and not have a final answer about how you think/feel about an issue/person/place/experience, etc.

I've noticed that mental rigidity often goes hand in hand with brittleness when it comes to self-care and mental health.

If you have been in a situation that craves drama, you probably are entrained to respond. You didn't "attract" that (For my Law Of Attraction peeps) , it's what's *familiar* to you because you probably grew up in a family of origin where three alarm fires and Chicken Little "The Sky Is Falling" responses to everything were the norm.

Here's a revelation:

You don't have to respond to drama.

You can remove yourself from a situation and you don't have to fix it.

Fixing other people's problems who never seem to have a solution to their pain/anxiety/whatever may mean one of two things:

You and they are Codependent, and you are enabling their behavior.

Who are you if you aren't the Savior?

Remove yourself from the behavior and see what happens when you aren't there to save them.

Do they get better? Worse? Stay the same?

That will tell you what you need to know about whether or not that person is needed in your life and/or a healthy presence for you.

You are more than the sum of your parts.
 Stop encouraging crazy behavior. 

You can ween yourself off of drama queens whose lives are always in chaos and never get better.

Dysfunctional parents teach their children how to be crazy.

Don't encourage it. 

Remove yourself from the situation and take the time necessary to observe, process, and heal what is going on inside you first.

Then remove people who can't, don't, or won't stop their craving for dysfunctional situations and that constantly require you to put out their never-ending three alarm fires.

#SelfCareIsntSelfish #Dysfunction #DysfunctionalFamiliesOfOrigin #ChickenLittle #Drama #BadFriendsAreMirrorsOfOurFamilies #HowWeCope #Origins #FocusOnYourself

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