Sunday, July 30, 2017

The Rose That Sings Like A Bird

What song would you like me to sing?

High Lonesome Bluegrass?

"Ring of Fire"?

 "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling"?

No, wait, I just thought of one.

Monday, July 24, 2017

The Prodigy - Firestarter (Official Video)

I want you to know that I think this video is beyond embarrassing, but there's an underground tunnel in it so OOH, HIDDEN MESSAGES,  right? 


Ok. So I AM the Firestarter. Get used to it. 

Thursday, July 20, 2017

Cluster B's Are Everywhere: Accept that & Empower Yourself

The Borderline Narcissist - Confusion

Ever date or have someone in your life who could cycle between idealizing, loving, affectionate, needing your attention, sentimental and then contemptuous, raging, and discarding-- all within the span of an hour? And then the whole cycle would start all over again? Did bewilderment usually predominate as the main emotion for you? Then you were probably in the zone known as Borderline Narcissist Land. 

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Amy Winehouse - Stronger Than Me

You ain't my Daddy. You're acting like a boy-man. I know you ain't gay... you're just a psychopathic jerk who wants me to run "gauntlets" and use me as a triangulation device for your fembots. 

But are you brave enough to sit by the fire with me and cuddle? Nope! Hard pass. Like most men. They want a cardboard cut-out for their fanfic wanks, not a real human.

Apparently, I'm not a person allowed to have a dynamic, direct, face-to-face exchange with real grown ups who own their shit. I'm not a person at all. I'm a holographic reality interface. I'm 2D. I'm not allowed to have anything or anyone real pass through this "zone of interference". Nope, apparently that's kept from me. Plenty of sycophants and narcissists and weaklings and defense mechanisms passing as human- just barely- and psychos and weirdo fetishists. But human beings? No. Apparently I'm not allowed to have them in my life.


Monday, July 10, 2017

Bad Friends? Family members driving you crazy? Here's Help:

It's okay to feel ambivalence about something and not have a final answer about how you think/feel about an issue/person/place/experience, etc.

I've noticed that mental rigidity often goes hand in hand with brittleness when it comes to self-care and mental health.

If you have been in a situation that craves drama, you probably are entrained to respond. You didn't "attract" that (For my Law Of Attraction peeps) , it's what's *familiar* to you because you probably grew up in a family of origin where three alarm fires and Chicken Little "The Sky Is Falling" responses to everything were the norm.

Here's a revelation:

You don't have to respond to drama.

You can remove yourself from a situation and you don't have to fix it.

Fixing other people's problems who never seem to have a solution to their pain/anxiety/whatever may mean one of two things:

You and they are Codependent, and you are enabling their behavior.

Who are you if you aren't the Savior?

Remove yourself from the behavior and see what happens when you aren't there to save them.

Do they get better? Worse? Stay the same?

That will tell you what you need to know about whether or not that person is needed in your life and/or a healthy presence for you.

You are more than the sum of your parts.
 Stop encouraging crazy behavior. 

You can ween yourself off of drama queens whose lives are always in chaos and never get better.

Dysfunctional parents teach their children how to be crazy.

Don't encourage it. 

Remove yourself from the situation and take the time necessary to observe, process, and heal what is going on inside you first.

Then remove people who can't, don't, or won't stop their craving for dysfunctional situations and that constantly require you to put out their never-ending three alarm fires.

#SelfCareIsntSelfish #Dysfunction #DysfunctionalFamiliesOfOrigin #ChickenLittle #Drama #BadFriendsAreMirrorsOfOurFamilies #HowWeCope #Origins #FocusOnYourself

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